4 steps to living your best life
Hey Hey,
So it’s time to get a little personal here, grab a cup of tea or coffee and a biscuit if you’re cheeky! I’m going to be taking a deep dive im how to live your best life.
Have you ever felt like everything around you was caving in and there was nothing you could do about it? Or that nothing was going your way. Maybe you’ve received some life-altering news. Or maybe you’ve just had a really bad day, week or month, either way, you have more power than you think.
Life is comparable to a rollercoaster. You have highs and lows, a slow rise to the top and a drop so quick it has you clenching onto your wig for dear life. Either way, let’s just say it’s unpredictable and many times it feels like things are out of your control. You’re right, there are some things that you simply cannot predict and others you can see coming from a mile away. Some of these events can get us winded left wondering what on earth to do next. Now I’m not saying I’ve mastered this but I’m working on it so here’s your no-nonsense guide to get over it and live your best life.
1. Give yourself a moment to feel it
If you don’t allow yourself to feel the pain, the hurt, sorrow, or anger it will eat you up; if not now then later. Something completely unrelated could occur and trigger you into a whirlwind of emotions you were supposedly over. It’s so easy to go about as if you’re ok but if you aren’t that is also ok. Watch a sad film, cry, eat ice cream, anything that lets you acknowledge the feeling, without shame. I must admit, I am a cry it out sort of girl.
2. Relax, relate, release
So we’ve felt our pain, we’ve wallowed, it’s time to release it. How do you ask? Well, a good place to start is with positive affirmations. So something bad has happened, it’s thrown you off course, but it is fine because you’re strong and you will get back on track!. You will overcome this, you are still here so it’s not over yet. If you have to record yourself, write on a post-it and stick it somewhere you can’t miss or write in a journal, do it. This step is crucial because healing cannot occur if you let yourself remain a victim of your circumstance. Find someone to talk to, be it a friend, family members or maybe even a therapist, just make sure it is someone you trust.
3. Take it one day at a time
This won’t be easy and I won’t lie to you and say that it is. Every time you make the choice to not become a victim of your circumstances you are choosing you. You cannot control everything but what you do have control over is you and how you react to each situation you face. One day will turn into two and two days into a week and before you know it, it’ll be three months and whatever had you feeling down will be a thing of the past or well on its way to.
4. Have some fun
In a time of difficulty, it is easy to isolate yourself, but that’s not always the best thing to do. Isolation can sometimes drive us into a deeper depression or have us feeling sorry for ourselves. None of these things will help and will instead promote stagnation and in a time like this, you want to continuously move forward, no matter how slow. So get together with some friends and have a good old time. It is completely understandable if you’re not quite at that stage and there are always alternatives until you are. These include but are not limited to: taking a walk, hitting the gym, buying yourself a new book, watching your favourite film or just jamming out to music.
So here’s to the motto live your best life, you deserve it. Let me know in the comments below how you get over unfortunate or unexpected circumstances events in your life.
Until next time,
Koko
xo
